Has Feminism ruined dating?

Let's face it times have changed, women have much more rights than 100 years ago. We have come so far in so many ways that is quite admirable.The fact that a woman could be a candidate for the US presidency means a lot. All the women before us fought for us to be able to vote, for our rights to education our right to have a voice. But what if we have become so "in love" with our independence and how amazing is to be a woman that in a way ruined our dating life?!
Now I have been single for a while and so is my best friend, we have tried many ways to meet people we been on dates but we always say "next". I know that nowadays we have higher standards and we are picky however is feminism part of those standards?

Now as a strong independent woman that made everything by myself I can't really be someone's "little" girl to protect nor be identified as the weaker sex, in fact, I would get annoyed. However, men have always been the dominating figure even in dating. There are the ones who will take the lead, pay for the dinner, decide where to have dinner, chase you and be the leaders and you their little follower in every step.

Every time I go on a date, I always offer to pay and to be honest I prefer to pay as I hate people paying for me. You don't need to chase me because if I don't like you I will make it clear, I have no time for games. No means no and yes means yes. Men should not do everything for women and women should not expect to get everything done from men.
But hasn't this changed the dating game and challenged the original feminine and masculine roles?

Do you think feminism ruined dating?

20 comments

  1. I was dating years ago I've been married about 15 years or so but I still paid my way too, I didn't want to be perceived the wrong way. I hear now men are less willing to pay for meals and expect women to pay halves anyway.

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  2. Maybe I just don't get feminism as much as I am strong and independent when he offers to pay I let him but not to say I won't contribute financially another way it's just I don't like ruining his parade. But a good food for thought

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  3. I always pay my way I''ve been with my husband overall for 8 years now and its always been like that with us or taking paying in turns.

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  4. When I was dating my husband, I liked it when he took the lead and offered to pay for me - of course the more we dated I offered to pay for myself but I liked how he always insisted, I thought it was sweet. But that's just me ☺️

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  5. I think it depends on what you expect from a date. On my first date with my husband he chose the venue, paid for our meal and was nothing but gentlemanly! For me, I would happily have paid my way but he insisted, which I thought was really sweet.

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  6. It really does depend. At work I like to be strong and independent however I like the fact my husband takes care of me at home. He also likes to take care of me, he feels like he is doing his job as the protector. You can still appreciate feminism but let someone be a gentleman. I teach my boys they should respect girls and look after them.

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  7. I haven't been on many dates if I'm honest but I think it's lovely when someone offers to treat you to a meal or whatever you're doing.

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  8. If anything I think feminism ruined dating in the sense of what is expected and seen as the norm. There are new rules at play now because girls are willing to pay and will be up front and honest with the guy they are out with. That isn't necessarily a bad thing in my opinion though. (:

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  9. Well stated and I am hoping you are talking about me haha. But on a serious note I hate it when people pay for me too and especially if I don't like them in that way. For me its not to do with feminism but just being uncomfortable with relying on someone else for money when I have always been reliant on myself for income.

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  10. Interesting, I've never really thought about it. I haven't been in the dating game for some years and I am sure the landscape has changed dramatically.

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  11. Before i met my hubby i was very independent and on our first date i made sure i paid for myself just because i was also uncomfortable with someone else paying for me. It didnt become a big deal though when i became comfortable he paid for me but i also paid for him sometimes or just myself and we pretty much do things equally in our marriage now too,except when im pregnant and sick! :)

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  12. I've never really given this any thought. I have always been an independent individual, but my husband always insisted he paid for me when we were dating, I just took it he was being the perfect gentleman :)

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  13. I never though of this before as I have been Married for over 20 years. I think it is great that women are more independent nowdays :)

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  14. I have to admit that I am an old fashioned girl and I would expect dinner to be bought for me, doors opened and the chair pulled out

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  15. What a thought provoking post. I think feminism has kind of ruined dating. Some of us want men play the stereotype masculine roles only when it suits us.

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  16. No, it doesn't, especially if you're dating "the right person", because that person wouldn't mind it at all. In this day and age, it shouldn't be an issue anymore :)

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  17. It has been a long time since I dated but my son takes his girlfriend out on proper dates and he is very much the old fashioned gentleman. His girlfriend is a bold, funky young lady but she likes to be spoiled and sometimes she spoils him too.

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  18. I'm a strong, independent woman but I have to say when it comes to things like this I like a man to treat me well and make me feel special. I do like to pay my way etc but it's also nice to have a fuss made of me so I'm really not bothered about the feminism aspect of it x

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  19. I,m and independent woman.. but i love when a man is old school and looks after his lady..

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