Do People Really Deserve A Second Chance?
A person we loved and trusted but has blinded us and we kept falling for the same old excuses and useless apologies.
Is it really a second chance though.
Before we give someone a second opportunity to make things right, we have already given them many, so is not really a second chance. We are desperately trying to fill that void and imagine the potential dream relationship with them that we sometimes choose to look away from the reality, which is, that person is in fact toxic.
I was all alone in a big city young and naive and I wanted someone to fill that void. When I met her I cling to her and let her slowly break me down. She would question me and compare me criticize my every move, I was constantly being judged negatively. A small coffee meet up will have as a result me going home feeling sh*t while she would probably get a confidence boost because there is nothing better than putting someone down to make yourself feel better right?
I have allowed that person, to treat me like that, I always knew she was toxic, but we shared so many things together so many memories so many laughs, that made me sort of "forget" or let go her nasty behaviour.
But how much can a person take? How long till you had enough?
We all have our breaking moment, for me it was last March. She thought it was absolutely okay to belittle me and use derogatory terms against me in front of other people. When I made her aware of her behaviour she said that she didn't realize that she was hurting me, and she apologized. But how is it possible to keep putting people down and not "realise"you hurting them?! You just basically think that you can get away with it. But NO, it doesn't work like that, no one but no one has the right to judge you no matter what. We are unique and imperfectly perfect we ALL make mistakes constantly, therefore how dare you tell me how to live my life. If yours is not perfect either. I have chosen to take that person out of my life completely, and I instantly felt like weight was lifted off my shoulders. Is been almost a year since we have spoken, and she recently sent me text saying that she wants to meet up.
Does she deserves a second chance?
I replied to her text as I initially thought that she does. After a long thinking I decided she doesn't. People don't miraculously change at least not that fast. She would go on her old ways as soon as she got comfortable again.
Not everyone deserves a second chance. We certainly don't get another shot in life. She had her chances to see her malicious ways but she chooses not to. Therefore there is no such a thing as second chances we all make our choices whether we conscious about it or not. If someone's choice was to emotionally or physical hurt another person then, a second chance should not be given. But we have probably already given not just a second chance but 100 chances and we know it, things won't work out. So shut those familiar little voice in your head that tells you that this time things will be different and realise your worth. We all deserved to loved and appreciated we are beautiful and precious and no one has the right to tell you otherwise. Find the strength to get rid of all these dirty scumbags from your life even if that person is your boyfriend/girlfriend. You can do better, I promise.
Do you think people deserve second chances?