Wednesday, 17 August 2016

It's Okay Not To Like Yourself (Sometimes)


Everywhere I look there are people saying that you have to love your body, and spreading body positivity but at the same time worship people with 1 specific body type that majority people don't have. Isn't that contradictive?

There are major media campaigns and endless blog posts on how you should learn to love your body. Don't get me wrong I am all about accepting your flaws and not dwell on things that you can't changes or if you can change something on you then by all means go for  it. 
However, how realistic is to truly love your body?
The whole idea of it, it gets to the point of making people uncomfortable when they don't like themselves, like there is something wrong with that. When in fact is absolutely normal.  There is always something on every person that makes them feel insecure about themselves. Therefore, it's more than ok, not to like yourself sometimes.

I don't always like my body in fact I have moments that I completely hate it, but I also have moments where I am perfectly okay with how I look. However, everytime I express that I automatically labelled as an insecure bitter person that hates life. Which I don't think is true but as a normal 20 something girl I have my moments who doesn't anyways? 
I always been the shorter girl of the group, standing at 5'1' it always made me feel insecure, and honestly it probably always will. Growing up though, in a way I have accepted that and learnt to be sort of okay with it. Learning to accept yourself is not easy and definitely not as easy as people making it to be. It doesn't happen overnight, it takes a while if not forever, it might never happen, but as I said before you come in terms with it and your okay with it.  You learn to be grateful of what you have and have less days where you're like "I look sh*t today". And in the end of the day it's your body and no one has the right to tell you how to feel about it, if you wanna moan about your boobs its okay and is also okay to tell the whole world how awesome they are.
My point is that no one is perfect, and is perfectly okay not to like yourself sometimes. 


Do you have moments where you just don't like yourself?


29 comments:

  1. I'm the same - I have moments where I hate the way I look, moments where I love it, and loads in between!

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  2. All the time, but I've also reached an age when I've accepted that I'm never going to be a size 6 again. I get a little bit down every time I have to try on clothes and they look awful on me, I guess that's one of the reasons why I prefer shopping online nowadays.

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  3. Like Dean B said, I think the point it's not about liking or disliking: it's about accepting. Everyone has something that isn't perfect but we need to accept it, specially if we can't change it. It's hard, but that doesn't tell who we are and what we do and love to do :) x
    www.wha2wear.com

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  4. It's the same for me, I definitely don't always feel the same way every day about how I look.

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  5. I thought you said that this post was rubbish! Its not, its great to see you create open discourse around body image and as you said we all have our own body hangups. For me I don't like that I am too slim or that my teeth are not straight. At the end of the day we would not be beautiful if we were not flawed.

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  6. I think we all feel like this at times and it is totally normal and we have to accept that not everything is all sugar and rainbows x

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  7. I have moments where I don't like myself...definitely! I do think it largely depends on where I am on my cycle but I think it's totally fine and make us human!

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  8. Yes I think we all feel like this at one time or another, it's just what we do.
    But we are who we are, might as well embrace it :) x

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  9. I feel like this all the time! Its rare if I have a day that I actually like the way I look, I have always been insecure about my body and I can't see it changing anytime soon, especially because there are so many judgey people

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  10. Amen! Totally agree that nobody is perfect and you're not insecure if you don't like yourself at that moment in time. When i tell people I'm the biggest I've been since finishing a sport I did for 6 years it's not to say that I look fat but I'm just bigger than I was. Not for a minute was I insecure either it's just an assumption. Lets love us for what we are - no more no less :)

    Alina | The Fairytale Pretty Picture

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  11. I completely get what your saying, I think as long as these thoughts don't take over they can be helpful if there are things we'd like to change

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  12. I totally get it. I'm only 5'2 and have not really ever had much confidence when it comes to my body. I'm still not too comfortable with it now. Thank you for sharing your post.

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  13. I think we all have concerns and dislikes, I hate my stomach but then I have to remember that it has given me my children

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  14. I am so glad you've wrote this. I was gonna write something similar as all we hear are people banging on about positivity and loving themselves and I'm sure they aren't all being very truthful. Don't get me wrong I try and be postive but I also have lots of days where I really don't like parts of myself and that is ok too x

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  15. It's definitely contradictive. I had many moments, I am short too, but that doesn't matter to me because my boyfriend is two times taller than me (almost haha). So I kind of realized that nothing is wrong with my height. So, the thing I was annoyed was my weight. I haven't felt secure in my body like, when I sit I have a weird feeling, I mean, I just think I have few pounds more and that I would look better without them. I mean many people I know lost half their weight and I can't lose 4pounds or less...

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  16. I agree there a days we don't like what we do, how we look like but thats ok and pretty normal I guess.

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  17. This is the most superb perspective on such an important topic. I really think we would be far better off if we were just more comfortable with all of it, the liking and disliking our bodies.

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  18. I have moments where I wish certain parts were bigger or smaller. And then I work out haha! I actually just starting working out again. The pain!

    Love,
    Ivelisse | CarnationDreams.com

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  19. This is quite a thing, right? It happens to everyone. I am not sure why but we love us one day and the other we hate us, pretty crazy but depends on the mood we are I guess.

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  20. oh, I have my moments! The key is to not let it become a habit, that self-deprivation, that we tend to indulge in, especially as women. Great post, blessings!

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  21. Amen. I think just admitting when you don't like yourself is so much more freeing than denying. We need to face our demons, see what is troubling us or what makes us feel ugly. It's the only way to recover our strength. Sometimes we need to fall a little bit.

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  22. There will always be days like this but mostly it's just the pressure of life. i don't really like criticizing how I look. I choose to have a positive mindset at everything including my appearance. Sticking to what people define as beautiful will just make you unhappy and I choose not to go that route.

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  23. It's definitely okay to feel this way from time to time, sometimes you just can't help it. The important part is that you get over the feeling because once you allow it to linger, it will suck you up and you'll always feel bad about yourself.

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  24. This is an intense read. There are moments when I dont like the way life is going or my name (too long and always wrongly pronounced everywhere ) But I think im getting used to it and finding better ways to deal with the situation.

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  25. Oh yes, I have those moments! I feel quite often that something is wrong with me and why do I feel I don't belong to that group or what so ever.

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  26. Oh I totally have moments where I hate my body. I wish my stomach was flatter or that I was just a little bit lighter. I love your honesty here. It is totally okay to have imperfect moments!

    Nina
    aworldofdresses.com

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  27. Everyone has these moments you know. But the very end of it all, we just got to love who we are and how we are.

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  28. I feel this at times too but in the end, we just have to love ourselves for who we are.

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  29. I totally feel you here! I am a petite too and a lot of times I regret for not being 5'4 or beyond but then I go but heels 😀 I think some or other way we have to find that balance which makes us keep happy and going! I love that you spoke your heart, good post!

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