Saturday, 16 January 2016

Turning 25


I have spent my whole life dwelling on the past or thinking of what would have happened if I didn't do that or this. I have always procrastinated and left important things for tomorrow or left family and friends waiting, thinking that I will make that call later. I have gone through big moments of my life thinking of something else instead of being in the moment. I spent a big portion of my life wishing things to happen like I was older when I was younger, wishing I was taller prettier, and many more. And as a result of that,I forgot to live. It took me long to realize that the tomorrow that I've been waiting for yesterday, is in fact today. 



The previous year went by in the blink of an eye and we are already in the middle of January just like that; time doesn't wait, not for me not for anyone. The "later" will never come there is only now.I regret many things in 2015 but mostly I regret the things that I could have done and never done. When I was 10 I dreamed my life would be much different at 25. Today I want to find that person and be that person that I dreamed of being.  Turning 25 was a turning point for me a wake up call that came late but hey better late than never. 25 is a milestone birthday I had moments in my life where I didn't think I would make it to this age but here I am.



The past year I have learnt many things about myself and the world around me, things that were always there but I was too oblivious to see, probably because I was too drunk or high thinking I will be young forever if not forever for a long time. However, I learned many things and I understood much more the past few years; I have shared below what I have learnt throughout my journey to adult hood and finding the real "me". 


1)Make Up With Yourself
We all have our moments where we love or hate ourselves, moments where we feel at war with ourselves. This year is time to make up and be your own admirer and best friend accept your flaws, no body is perfect. Even the people you see on TV and magazines have insecurities. Your little imperfections makes you perfect and unique. Also don't forget, no one can hurt without your mental permission. Love your self and everything you are so you can become the person you are meant to be.

2)Understand people
We all have our reasons why we say things or act on specific ways whether we are conscious of it or not. Many people are ready to jump into conclusions, judge people and put them into boxes. There is much more to a human being that what others see or choose to see. Next time think before you say something and try to understand other people and their reasoning if you can't then step away and keep your opinion to yourself. 

3)Be unapologetic 

Apologizing when you are wrong is wise, apologizing when you are not is just stupid. I always find myself apologizing for things that were not my fault or even my control, but I would just think that someway I am the to blame maybe because I grew up with the mentality that things were my fault when they weren't. I stopped saying sorry to people and I noticed I gained more respect from others and not taken advantaged anymore.

4)It's Okay 

Many younger people including me imagined their life to be much different at 25. When I was 21 and in university I thought 25 is so far away and by then I would have achieved so many things. Reality though is much different. Almost nothing went to plan, but that's okay. To all those 20 year old who might read this, dream big but be realistic.

5)Understand Your Journey
 We all have our purpose, and we all have a different journey. Things might be difficult for you at this moment and easier for other people but that doesn't mean that it will always be like that. There are lessons to be learned every day. Remember is not the destination that matters but the journey.


 6) Don't Share Too Much
As I've said above not everyone will understand your journey therefore sharing too much even with close friends and family it might do more damage. People around us think they know us and they know what's best for us, they might try to talk you down or discourage you. Don't get me wrong it might be coming from a good place or place of envy. So sometimes is good to keep some things for ourselves just for the sake of it.

7)Redefine yourself

 At 25 you kind of transitioning from being a borderline teenager to an proper adult. Sometimes you just keep on carrying the baggage with you but guess what you are not 15 anymore or 18 for that matter. Is officially the time to define yourself and realize that you are the only person who can do that.

 8)Find Your Community

I always been an outsider, especially growing up in a small town where all the people were like sheeps, everyone would think and act the same. They would not even dare to question things or have any sort of ambition they were like copies of each other being manipulated by the government and religion. But me. I always thought they were just bunch of idiots and I was pretty vocal about.  I started questioning things from a very young age, and refused to be a sheep. But that was pretty isolating. When I moved to London I was determined to find my community and people who were like me and they would accept me just they way I am, and I am glad I found it.  Therefore, finding your own community is important in order to find and accept yourself.

9)No Bullshit and bullshitters 

Quit toxic people and people who feed on drama you don't have time for that you are too old.  I have no tolerance for idiots and time wasters anymore.
Bye Felicia!


10)Make Shit Happen

Things happen when people go out there and make things happen.
I hear people complaining about not getting opportunities and when they do, they let it slip away and trying to excuse themselves for that "like I was not going to get it anyway".  If you want a change you need get off your comfort zone, stay up all night, take risks and don't compromise. One day you will thank yourself for that.

 Live On The Edge

42 comments:

  1. These are great. And how wonderful to see them at 25! Some of us {me} took up until we were 30 to realize some of these. Especially #10. I'm impressed by you ;)

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  2. I loved every tip you listed, I'm 21 but 25 for me looks so close! But I enjoyed your post overall !

    Freda Lee x

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  3. Fantastic list....... Happy 25!!!

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  4. don't share too much is crucial! Im still learning that :)

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  5. This is a great list! Happy 25 - it only gets better from there!

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  6. Great Tips! 25 is a great age to start becoming the person you want to be. Thanks for sharing!

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  7. I'm half way into 25 and I totally get what you are saying! It's going to be ok, I should have learned earlier not to be so hard on myself, though I still haven't learned that!

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  8. A powerful post Anna and definitely food for thought. Those who are different and refuse to accept homogeneity are often alienated by society because we are seen as inherently 'freakish' and not to be associated with. In reality they feel threatened and their fear is translated into hatred towards the social other.

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  9. These are great tips at any age but at 25 I'm right there with you

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  10. Nice Inspirations

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  11. I love that you've shared the lessons you've learned in this first quarter of your life. Many people take a long time to come to the realization about the things you now already know. I love that now you've found your community you're set to reinvent yourself in whatever fashion you wish and you're ready to "make shit happen." :-)

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  12. Great thoughts as you approach this milestone! I still have a couple years before 25 and I know that there will be a lot I'll learn between now and then. Thanks for sharing what you've discovered!

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  13. Happy birthday! Good tips you listed there!

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  14. Hello. I just finish reading your post. I really got alot out of it. You just gave me let points for me to keep on following in this year

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  15. Hey nice post! btw, happpy realization and that too bit early otherwise keep dwelling for even in 30s and once days are gone are gone! Nice inspiring post.
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    Keep writing dear! Loved your spirit.
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  16. Good tips :) Positive and empowering...
    I think it take an entire life to finding ourselves

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  17. Fantastic advice here. Wish I had come across this when I was twenty five.

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  18. Fantastic advice here. Wish I had come across this when I was twenty five.

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  19. Oh my gosh! To be so young and only 25 again! It is apparent that you have gained much wisdom in your short 25 years! Enjoy every minute that you possibly can. Trust me, it all goes by much too quickly!

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  20. Wait till you hit 65. You can be a child again and everybody thinks you're just being old. Lol.

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  21. great advices , need to print that ! Wish I was as smart as you are when I was 25

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  22. Dream big but be realistic is my favourite words from your post. As I get older, I now understand these words, because so many times, things don't come out as we plan.

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  23. This is great! I turned 25 in January and I decided not to make it a "milestone" year, I am me. I won't give myself limits or points to start again. I'm always reviewing and I'm always building. Some great tips in there, no matter what age you are! :)

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  24. Great post! And happy 25 :) I loved the tips you give too!

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  25. I couldn't agree more! I turned 25 in October and it was such a great eye opener.

    - Elodie x

    www.elle-yeah.com

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  26. For a 25 years old you think very mature. I liked all your conclusions especially no.9 "Bye Felicia!". Like you said, better later than never. Make things happen as much as you can and as much as they depend on you. http://mickeymary-lou.blogspot.ro/2016/04/love-is-in-air-part-two.html

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  27. You are very mature for your age. It's good that you are thinking things over and that you are focusing on the things you want. You have many things to learn yet, but you are in a good road that lead to success, personal and professional. A road that leads to happiness!
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  28. Happy 25th! I think you're going to have many good years from here if you apply all your advice to your life going forward! 25 is a milestone, but there's still 60+ years in your future, and i bet you'll make the most of them!

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  29. Beautiful glimpse into your soul. This year I celebrated my 25th (for the 9th time haha) and I'm still looking to capture some of that magic of the 20s back. Don't beat yourself up for your mistakes though...just continue to grow and be the best version of yourself possible.

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  30. These are so great! I turn 25 in august and it's crazy. I'm focusing on myself so much this year and really going after what I want and also not regretting my past, just moving forward. Good for you for realizing all of this!

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  31. Love this! I had a similar phase when I turned 25. This year I will be 27 and am just learning to more enjoy the moments and stop worrying so much about where I am supposed to be. Lifes to short!

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  32. Hah, just wait for 26, it`s a whole new world!

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  33. What a great post, its important to live in the now and not waiting for the unknown future.

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  34. Great post and 25 is a great age to be, people take you seriously as an adult but you can still get away with being a child too x

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  35. Gteat post. I felt the same way when I turned 25. Happy birthday

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  36. I like the no time for bull shit and bull shitters part the most.

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  37. I think I didn't do this until I turned 30 but you do get to a point where you need to think of yourself. Happy Birthday xx

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  38. Really great advice to follow for yourself. Happy Birthday, enjoy being 25.

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  39. I wish I was that clued up at 25! I was still wandering around clueless. You're far more focussed!

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  40. Happy Birthday! Only 25?!? You got ages to make things happen! A lot of my mummy's best experiences was in her 30's. Try not to beat yourself up about past regrets, just keep moving forward! Great advice x

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  41. Great post, with age comes experience and knowledge and no matter what age we are we are always learning and adjusting.

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  42. Quite an eye-opener if I may say. I am only 19, but this really got me thinking about some of the stuff in life and focus on the stuff that matter.

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