I have spent my whole life dwelling on the past or thinking of what would have happened if I didn't do that or this. I have always procrastinated and left important things for tomorrow or left family and friends waiting, thinking that I will make that call later. I have gone through big moments of my life thinking of something else instead of being in the moment. I spent a big portion of my life wishing things to happen like I was older when I was younger, wishing I was taller prettier, and many more. And as a result of that,I forgot to live. It took me long to realize that the tomorrow that I've been waiting for yesterday, is in fact today.
The previous year went by in the blink of an eye and we are already in the middle of January just like that; time doesn't wait, not for me not for anyone. The "later" will never come there is only now.I regret many things in 2015 but mostly I regret the things that I could have done and never done. When I was 10 I dreamed my life would be much different at 25. Today I want to find that person and be that person that I dreamed of being. Turning 25 was a turning point for me a wake up call that came late but hey better late than never. 25 is a milestone birthday I had moments in my life where I didn't think I would make it to this age but here I am.
The past year I have learnt many things about myself and the world around me, things that were always there but I was too oblivious to see, probably because I was too drunk or high thinking I will be young forever if not forever for a long time. However, I learned many things and I understood much more the past few years; I have shared below what I have learnt throughout my journey to adult hood and finding the real "me".
1)Make Up With Yourself
We all have our moments where we love or hate ourselves, moments where we feel at war with ourselves. This year is time to make up and be your own admirer and best friend accept your flaws, no body is perfect. Even the people you see on TV and magazines have insecurities. Your little imperfections makes you perfect and unique. Also don't forget, no one can hurt without your mental permission. Love your self and everything you are so you can become the person you are meant to be.
We all have our reasons why we say things or act on specific ways whether we are conscious of it or not. Many people are ready to jump into conclusions, judge people and put them into boxes. There is much more to a human being that what others see or choose to see. Next time think before you say something and try to understand other people and their reasoning if you can't then step away and keep your opinion to yourself.
Apologizing when you are wrong is wise, apologizing when you are not is just stupid. I always find myself apologizing for things that were not my fault or even my control, but I would just think that someway I am the to blame maybe because I grew up with the mentality that things were my fault when they weren't. I stopped saying sorry to people and I noticed I gained more respect from others and not taken advantaged anymore.
Many younger people including me imagined their life to be much different at 25. When I was 21 and in university I thought 25 is so far away and by then I would have achieved so many things. Reality though is much different. Almost nothing went to plan, but that's okay. To all those 20 year old who might read this, dream big but be realistic.
5)Understand Your Journey
We all have our purpose, and we all have a different journey. Things might be difficult for you at this moment and easier for other people but that doesn't mean that it will always be like that. There are lessons to be learned every day. Remember is not the destination that matters but the journey.
As I've said above not everyone will understand your journey therefore sharing too much even with close friends and family it might do more damage. People around us think they know us and they know what's best for us, they might try to talk you down or discourage you. Don't get me wrong it might be coming from a good place or place of envy. So sometimes is good to keep some things for ourselves just for the sake of it.
At 25 you kind of transitioning from being a borderline teenager to an proper adult. Sometimes you just keep on carrying the baggage with you but guess what you are not 15 anymore or 18 for that matter. Is officially the time to define yourself and realize that you are the only person who can do that.
8)Find Your Community
I always been an outsider, especially growing up in a small town where all the people were like sheeps, everyone would think and act the same. They would not even dare to question things or have any sort of ambition they were like copies of each other being manipulated by the government and religion. But me. I always thought they were just bunch of idiots and I was pretty vocal about. I started questioning things from a very young age, and refused to be a sheep. But that was pretty isolating. When I moved to London I was determined to find my community and people who were like me and they would accept me just they way I am, and I am glad I found it. Therefore, finding your own community is important in order to find and accept yourself.
9)No Bullshit and bullshitters
Quit toxic people and people who feed on drama you don't have time for that you are too old. I have no tolerance for idiots and time wasters anymore.
10)Make Shit Happen
Things happen when people go out there and make things happen.
I hear people complaining about not getting opportunities and when they do, they let it slip away and trying to excuse themselves for that "like I was not going to get it anyway". If you want a change you need get off your comfort zone, stay up all night, take risks and don't compromise. One day you will thank yourself for that.
Live On The Edge