Thursday, 3 December 2015

Home

"Are we meant to belong in one place?"
I moved away from my lovely home at the age of 18 to go to uni and since then, I never returned back and for the past 7 years I have been moving around indulging to my endless lust of wanderlust and curiosity to see and experience as much as I can. It never really bothered me the fact that I moved houses sometimes cities or countries as it was my choice, the only downside is that sometimes I feel like I have lost my sense of belonging and my definition of "home" has been twisted.  Recently I was having a conversation with my colleague and I was asked "Where is home for you?" and I just blacked out for few seconds, as I realized I didn't have an answer. I kept thinking "what is home" what I am supposed to define as home; the place I currently live in but I barely feel as home or the place where I was born and grow up?  Thinking that little question over and over again I came to the conclusion that I don't have a home as sad as it sounds.
 The only place I feel like home is where my parents are and they are across the pond far from where I am. 
I went back to my home country last year for few days everything seemed so familiar and yet so foreign I felt like I was not part of that community anymore, I didn't fit in. I guess that is the outcome of chasing a dream, is to be "homeless", does it worth it? I will probably answer that question when I am much older.  On the other hand we as human beings are we meant to belong in one place or is that part of the unwritten rules of society. Maybe we are not meant to belong anywhere or belong everywhere.




What does home mean to you?


"Never make your home in a place. Make a home for yourself inside your own head. You'll find what you need to furnish it - memory, friends you can trust, love of learning, and other such things. That way it will go with you wherever you journey
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Wearing:
Hat: Primark
Boots: Primark
Trousers: White Stuff
Top: Topshop
Cardigan: Zara



40 comments:

  1. I can definitely understand where you're coming from with this. I am married, and yes my husband is my family, however, my mom passed away and my dad and sister live on opposite sides of the country. It's very easy to feel alone and empty, but I try to just be grateful for the fact that we can talk on the phone, text, Skype, etc. There is definately no one like family.

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  2. Home is where my family and friends are. I love having that support system, but at the same time it doesn't bother me to travel and make a new home in a new city away from family either. I have done it before and I have learned how to adapt and make a new place my new home.

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  3. I agree with you! I've moved a lot in my life, but friends, family and a cozy place to spend time is the best places to call home!

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  4. I think it depends on the person. Personally, when I was little I moved from place to place never had a friend that I'd known for more than a year, didn't get to do sleepovers and normal kid things, so now that I'm older I crave the stability I never had when I was a child.

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  5. Beautiful article Anna. Home really is where you're surrounded by people you love and shared memories. And you can't have memories without having experiences, which is obviously the path you've taken. Thanks for sharing this.

    x Sola | www.lifestonedadventures.com

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  6. Home is always where your heart is and where you can be you without question or reason. This is a lovely post. Thanks for sharing!

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  7. An interesting post, like you I am caught between homes and subsequently our identities split into factions to suit the environment we are in. Home is a fluid concept and like gender you can choose where you call home.In a way the illusion of belonging to more than one settlement means that there is more of you to give.

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  8. I agree- I haven't felt "at home" for a long long time. Even now that I have "a home" Though I believe there could be a place I would call home- I just haven't found it yet. I prefer to just think of home as wherever I'm with my husband.

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  9. Well said! I think that home is where your heart is. It is not a place, it is where your soul resides, where you are happy. I love to travel, and when I travel I feel "at home".

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  10. After moving from place to place to place (US Army spouse), I view home as a place where I am comfortable and content. I am far away from my parents and siblings, but I am happy here with my work, my kids, and my pets. <3

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  11. I totally understand! I'm a Belgian expat, living in Ireland since nearly 3 years and the concept of home starts to be rather vague as well. I feel like I don't totally belong in Ireland and Belgium starts feeling foreign too :-)

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  12. Aw, such an amazing post. The question at the end of the post made me thinking. You look pretty also!

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  13. I've lived in so many different area, countries, cities and I'm the same, since coming to Manchester for university, it's the first time I've not left, starting to finally feel like home! :)

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  14. No, we are definitely not meant to be stuck in one place. I know what you feel, been 7 years since I moved out. It feels so good to come back home. Only to find that there are no more friends to hang out with, everyone has their own life now and so on.. Anyway, don`t worry about not having a home, you`ll find someone who will be worthy of creating one with you. Eventually.

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  15. If you asked me, home is a place you feel safe and you can relax. It's where your heart is! When I visit my parents and the place I grew up, I feel comfort, but it's not my home anymore. It's a strange feeling. You are still young, you will find your home in time, don't worry. You will feel it when you do.
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  16. I was home for 26 years, only moving last year. Home to me is that particular house where I grew up and spent a lifetime. Moving was harder than anything I'd ever done. And as much as my current home is now 'disposable' thanks to a military lifestyle I'll always have 'home' home regardless of where I go.

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  17. Hi there, I have moved house a lot since I have been married and I can honestly say I still don't associate any building or even town with 'home'. For me home is about family and friends that you happen to cherish in the place where you live. Lovely post x

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  18. Home is where you want your home to be. Belonging to a community is harder than make yourself at home

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  19. I can totally relate to your experience because I have gone through the same. I moved out of my country after marriage and again moved to another country few years later due to work.

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  20. Home can be a place, can be a person. Everybody has different feeling and experience to define what "home" for them. A very thoughful post!

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  21. Home to me is the place we have been living for the last 29 years. It's where my now adult kids come to drop off the grand kids to play. It where I remember all the toddler times of sitting on the floor and playing with my own kids. It's where the Hubs and I have spent many days refinishing and making it our home. I hope everyone can find a place they call home that they love. :)

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  22. I think it's possible to feel like you have multiple homes. To me, it's where I feel comfortable and safe.

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  23. Home is where my heart is... which is my sweet family... We are working on making Norway our home... :)

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  24. This is really nice and I just love the parka! Kisses!

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  25. Home is wherever your heart is, I agree. This is a wonderful post, and too sweet. Thank you for sharing! :)

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  26. I've traveled to many places and just like you, for me, home is where my family is. My twins girls are my home and they will always be, no matter where they are or where I am in the world.

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  27. I'm lucky enough to be able to travel since a young age and I totally understand...some places feel more like home to me than where I grew up and lived my whole life. I think home is simply where ever you feel like you belong

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  28. Home to me is wherever my family is. My husband and children are my home.

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  29. I can empathise. For the longest time, every time I refer home it was always back in the Phil, where I'm from. But it just occurred to me a couple of years ago, that home isn't there anymore. Actually home is where my family is. And at the moment, we are here. I guess this is home for now at least ;)

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  30. I think I have finally returned to my home. Such an interesting insight though as to what we as individuals class as home. I think it is where our loved ones are x

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  31. I have lived all over the country but feel the place I am now is home

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  32. I can understand your feelings. I think home is a very subjective word. It deoends on the person and what is the definition of home for that person. For me, Home is where I was born and brought up- in India. As of now, I am away from it cause of higher studies but home would always remain special for me.

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  33. I don't think home is a place. I wander aimlessly sometimes and return to a location, but sometimes I think home is more what you feel with people or situations, rather than one set location. It's somewhere you feel completely relaxed and comfortable x

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  34. I also havent lived at home since I went to Uni and I am now 200+ miles away and whenever I go back, I do feel I am at home x

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  35. I do love my home - being just me and my children, it is the first place I have really felt happy and secure in. Kaz x

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  36. I have left my home after high school for my studies, college, job and now for my traveling bug! Home is just a state of mind!

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  37. Moving and travelling constantly is such a privilege, I feel sorry for the people who spend all their time in one tiny place.

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  38. Couldn't agree more! I lived in so many countries and each of them brings me so many nice sentiments.

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  39. A home to us is where my family is. We love having friends and family near us.

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